Kissing Boo Boos and Talking About Gunmen

Mom Life

Being a parent y’all, is literally the hardest job in the entire world. There is no other job that requires so many different tasks and on so little sleep. In fact, for most jobs, that would be against the law to function that way. There’s making packed lunches each day, tying shoes, kissing boo boos and then, there’s the gunman talk. My heart is heavy today after the recent events of the shooting here in Florida and I know many feel the same. I am so burdened for the families that have lost loved ones that they will never be able to hold in their arms or utter “I love yous” to again. This is going to be a heart dumping sort of post, but I know many are in the place we are–you want to keep your kids innocent, but you can’t escape the horror of terrible possibilities.

My sweet blue-eyed baby girl is six. SIX. Why in heavens name should I have to talk to her about what to do if she hears gunfire at her school? I shouldn’t, that’s just all there is to it. However, my label as her momma comes with the requirement of keeping her safe. I don’t want her to live in fear, my goodness, I don’t, but I want her here with me for forever. I want to keep her safe from heartbreak, from teasing, from owies, from gunmen. Ugh, mommas, I know you get my rambling heart. 

I see the look of confusion in her eyes as I tell her about the recent events because her precious heart can’t comprehend hurting someone. I hate that I have to explain that many people in the world are hurting and will use words, knives, their hands or guns to evoke hurt on other people. It won’t make sense to her, it doesn’t make sense to me, but it has to be said. She is a brave young lady in her little itty bitty body and I can only pray that God forbid something happened that she would know what to do.

We live fairly close to her school and of course anytime I hear a few emergency vehicles driving by at one time, my tendencies to have momma anxiety comes out. I am not an anxious person, but my gracious, I love my kids and get unbearable emotions at the thought of anything happening to them. I want to keep them in a bubble, to keep them from the world and only to myself, but they are far too bright of a light to do so.

I choose to find comfort in the fact that maybe, just maybe, their ounces of hope and joy and love will change the little lives they come in contact with. Maybe they will be the one to comfort the bullied, the one person that cares about someone no one else does, that can help lead to these things not happening. A small ripple in a big ocean, but impactful none the less.

There will always be hurt people in the world, people will always find a way to use things in harmful ways if they so will. When I feel so lost and without control in the big world around me, I remember the little world I am responsible for right in front of me. As we talk to our kids about the hard things in life, we must also combat it in the same breath of how we can change it. Yes, they are little, but they are big in personality and big in love.

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    Allyson
    February 15, 2018 at 1:55 PM

    A touching post about talking to our children about tragedy. I wish we did not have to but as you said we must help our children be safe.

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    Krystal Miller
    February 15, 2018 at 2:58 PM

    I really hate that we have to talk to our young children about such events. Little ones deserve to feel safe at school. Breaks my heart!

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    Jenn L.
    February 16, 2018 at 1:07 PM

    I had that talk with Kendyl this morning and she’s not even 3. Her school is so small and has literally only 6 female workers. 4 of them are the teachers and 2 in the office. It scares me because ANYONE can come on campus. It’s hard enough to corral a few kids and keep them quiet, they have 15 in her class. I can’t even… 😢

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    Jasmine
    February 16, 2018 at 6:43 PM

    its a tough subject all the way around. my only hope is that when parent start teaching their kids the value of life, they wont have the want or need to pick up any kind of weapon

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      Ashley Solberg
      February 16, 2018 at 6:47 PM

      Totally agree Jasmine! Teaching them young to respect people and life is of the utmost importance <3

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    Angie
    February 19, 2018 at 5:10 PM

    So heartfelt! This is a scary world our children are growing up in. I’m scared to even send my daughter to school, so much so that I consider homeschooling at times. I agree respecting others is so very important!

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