{raising a young man}


michelle sterling


PC: Heather Coffey

​​This month my first born, my son, turned 14. Time continues to fly by faster and faster each year. He is already reminding me how long he has until he can start driving and we are having those conversations about college and future careers. I have been reading the book “5 Conversations You Must Have With Your Son” by Vicki Courtney. This book helps us to know how to approach our sons and have those important conversations with them as they grow into young men. Vicki Courtney wrote, “As mothers we will be one of the strongest voices in our sons’ lives. We must understand the temper of the times and determine the best course to take when it comes to raising our sons to model biblical manhood.”

I love when Vicki wrote about how we can sometimes be helicopter moms and rush to the rescue when our sons call. I am so that mom! She encourages us to allow them to forget their cleats and suffer the consequences from their coach.

Why? Because they will learn from their mistakes and correct their behaviors as they journey into manhood. “We must be purposeful in helping our sons make the transition from boyhood into manhood before they leave home.”

Spending time with our sons (and daughters) is the number one thing we can do to ensure they are learning from us and not the media. I would rather my son learn how to act as an adult and how to engage with his family from my husband and I than from a television show or movie. The Associated Press and MTV asked 1280 teens/young adults what makes them happy. The #1 answer was spending time with the family. Moms…teenagers really do want to spend time with their parents, just sometimes secretly…hehe!


​“Point your kids in the right direction- when they are old they won’t be lost.”- Proverbs 22:6 (MSG). I know we all live in a go-go-go world and our family is definitely one of them. Let’s make sure that we are having those intentional moments and conversations with our children. Below is the link to learn more about or order “5 Conversations You Must Have With Your Son” by Vicki Courtney.

Let’s not forget about our daughters. Vicki Courtney also has “5 Conversations You Must Have With Your Daughter.”

Enjoy the moments and make memories! Speaking of moments, please keep my son and I in your prayers. We are headed to Guatemala with a group from our church in two weeks to minister to children in an orphanage.
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  • Yvie
    October 14, 2016 at 5:50 AM

    Getting the books! Love Cole! He is everything of an example of you and Chris.
    Thanks for sharing. Jays is already saving for his jeep as he approaches 11.
    Time does fly but our time w our kids can count.
    Be blessed!

    • Michelle
      October 14, 2016 at 10:24 AM

      Thank you Yvie! 😊 Yes, Cole has his eyes on cars 🚗 already!